They say there is no greater pain than losing a child, and I think that must be true. As parents we know or believe that we will leave this world before our children do. But it's not always like this.
A father has gone through this painful experience and now we He shares a series of life lessons, which he learned a year after losing his son.
Richard Pringle is a dad from England, who lost his three-year-old son Hughie when he suffered a brain hemorrhage unexpectedly last summer. Even with pain in his heart, he has decided to share a list of 10 things on his Facebook account, or rather, 10 life lessons left by losing your child.
The 10 most important things I've learned since I lost my son
- You can never kiss and love too much.
- You always have time. Leave what you are doing and play, even if it is only for a minute. Nothing is important enough not to wait.
- Take all the photos and videos that are humanly possible. One day will be everything you have.
- Do not spend money, spend time. Do you think what you spend matters? No. What you do matters. Jump in the puddles, go for a walk. Swim in the ocean, make a camp and have fun. That is all they want. I can't remember the things we bought from Hughie, I just remember what we did.
- Sing. Sing songs together. My happiest memories are those of Hughie sitting on my shoulders or sitting next to me in the car singing our favorite songs. Memories are created in music.
- Appreciate the simplest things. Bedtime, read stories. Dinner together. Sundays of laziness. Appreciate the simplest times. Those are the ones I miss the most. Do not let those special times go unnoticed.
- Always say goodbye to those you love, and if you forget, come back and kiss them. You never know when it will be the last chance you have to do it.
- Make boring things fun. Super trips, car trips, walking in stores. Be funny, tell jokes, laugh, smile and enjoy yourself. They are only obligations if you treat them as such. Life is too short not to have fun.
- Keep a diary. Write down everything your children do and that enlightens your world. The funny things they say, the tender things they do. We started doing this after losing Hughie. We wanted to remember everything. Now we do it for Hettie and we'll do it for Hennie too. They will have these memories written forever, and when they get older they can go back in time and enjoy them together.
- If you have children with you, whom you can kiss every night, with which you can have breakfast, whom you can take to school, whom you can take to college, whom you can see getting married one day, you are very lucky. Never ever forget that.
He decided to convey this message to other parents, so we don't forget the really important things in life, so that we enjoy and take advantage of the time with our children, so that we know how blessed we are to have them by our side.
The lessons Richard shares probably already knew them, but with the daily routine, it is common for us to forget them or ignore them. Let's not do it Let's value every second with our children and always make space to spend time with them.
