As the mother of three girls, celebrations like the Girl's Day or International Women's Day, they are dates that touch me closely, because it makes me think about what I want for them, how I would like them to grow and what seeds I am sowing in them so that tomorrow they are strong and determined women, but above all, happy.
Life will give you some blows, I hope not many, and many joys, I hope many. In these 27 lessons for your daughter to become a strong and happy woman I wanted to share some premises that I always try to keep in mind to face any situation in life.
You are special
You are special, unique and unrepeatable. This tried to burn them on fire. Because they are, we all are, and if we believed it a little more, I'm sure we would be happier.
You are beautiful, believe it
All women are different, but we are all beautiful. And the first to believe it is you. Love yourself. Do not let anyone tell you ugly, or fat, or skinny legs, or anything like that. And if they tell you, because there is always some fool out there (this is also something they should know), just ignore it.
Don't compare yourself to anyone
So, as you are, you are unique. No one is better or worse than you, neither uglier nor prettier. The comparisons are hateful. Simply, be yourself.
Search your gift
Some things may not work out well, or you may not like them, but we all have a gift, a talent. And don't look for it by looking outside, but inward, looking for what you are passionate about, what you enjoy doing the most. There is your gift.
Be what you want to be
I'm not interested in being an architect, or an engineer, or an astronaut at NASA. I'm only interested in finding what you're really passionate about. I know what you want to be, but makes you happy. And if at any time stop passionate, find yourself a new passion.
Say what you feel
Expressing emotions is one of the keys to happinessThat is why I insist so much that they learn to say what they feel since they are little. Enough of the "What's wrong with you?" "Any". When it really happens to us.
I usually ask them questions like "How do you feel?", "How did that Fulanita tell you?" It is very important that they learn to recognize and express their emotions.
Say what you want
In this, women are sometimes very silly and we don't say clearly what we want or don't want. We say "Well, I don't know how you want" when we really mean "I don't want to". Say it clearly, both what you want and what you don't.
Be assertive
This buzz word lately, and a little in relation to what I mentioned above, is summed up in the ability to express your opinions or feelings clearly and directly, without shame.
Love your body
Love yourself both inside and out. Love your body, even if it is not perfect (what is perfect?). Take care, exercise, eat well And enjoy it.
Dream big
Do not stop dreaming. Never. There are no impossible dreams. Chase what you want, even if there are obstacles, because there will be, do not be discouraged. Set a goal and go for it.
Sing and dance with the soul
I hope you never lose that joy to dance and sing as they get, as they do now, with that spontaneity that children have. Without prejudice or shame. I adore those dancing moments.
Read
You live in the era of entertainment, there are thousands of things that get your attention, I know, but nothing is as worthwhile as the shelter of a good book. Do not lose that habit.
Commit yourself
You don't have to do everything, and you don't have to do everything right either, but Whatever you choose to do, do it with commitment. Get involved with people and with the projects you undertake.
Strive
There will be things that do not cost you effort, but you will see that the ones that give you the most satisfaction will be those in which you have given everything you could give.
The material happens
Do not stick to material things. Happiness is not there. Things break down, they get lost, the real value is in people.
Do not hurry to grow
Do not hurry, being older does not cool as much as you think. Enjoy your childhood, of your moments of play, of the naivety to see the world through your eyes as a child. It is a wonderful stage that does not return.
Do not want who does not love you
Love is a thing of two. Who really loves you, will love you without conditions, as you are. Love doesn't hurt or beg.
Know yourself
Give yourself time to think about yourself, to meditate, to ask yourself what you like and what you don't, what bothers you, what you do right or wrong. Do not let TV, video games or social networks, take up all your time, dedicate time to yourself. Take your mind to know who you are.
Sex is good
Sexuality is educated from childhood, without taboos and speaking clearly. Sex has to make you happy and enjoy. If someone approaches you and bothers you the way he talks about sex, and you are not comfortable, talk to your parents.
We will always support you
Tell us always what worries you. Keep secrets if you want, but not worries. If you need us, talk to us. Everything you go through, we've been through before.
Put yourself in the shoes of others
Remember that "don't do to others what you don't like to be done". Be careful what you say or do, because you can hurt someone. Do not judge or criticize others.
You will be a good mother
Let him believe it now. I try to give them all the tools to do so and I am sure they will be. Whatever you give to your daughters, affection, attention, care, pampering, they will give it to their children too.
Love your sisters
This is something that is not taught with words, but with deeds, encouraging brotherhood among them from the minute 0. Never stop protecting yourself, loving yourself, supporting yourself ... Someday the parents will not be and the sisters will remain.
Make friends
Friends are a gift of life. You will share (already do) special moments that only live with friends and remember forever. Laugh, have fun, trust and surrender to them.
Be honest, always
Sincerity is a great value very denigrated lately. For any relationship, friendly, loving, and even work, Sincerity demonstrates the integrity and quality of a person. You can be wrong, of course. If so, acknowledge it.
Don't let them overwhelm you
Be polite, always, but get away from toxic people They don't want your good. Who loves you well, wants your good.
"Life is good"
Finally, a phrase that is a maxim among us, a kind of key. When we enjoy good times together we look at each other and say "Life is good". Even when things are not going well, It is worth remembering always that life is beautiful.
